John Hancock and all

April 18, 2008 – 9:49 pm

It still is strange to see my name say Frey. To introduce myself as Frey. To introduce Mike as my husband. These terms and changes do not come naturally to me . . . it is a conscious thing, like keeping good posture; I have to work at it. It really is hard to spend so many years going by one name, only to suddenly change it. Nevermind how many times I practice my married signature, writing his name with mine. It still is something I have to work at. I sign credit card slips and checks more carefully now, pausing at the J of my middle initial to recall "You are going to write Frey after this."

I have a friend who’s first husband and second husband both had the same last name. For all the struggles she had in her life, that must have been one tiny vacation.

I am still not referred to as "Mrs". I have checked that box on an application or two for various things, but have yet to have anyone actually call me that. It’s like "Mommy", a name I know one day is coming, but not one I have heard yet.